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Friday, February 29, 2008

You Say It's Your Birthday?

It's "birthday season" around our house. We have a string of months in a row (Jan - April) where I and the kids have birthdays. (My wife is the oddball with a b-day in October)

I think we tend to be rather normal for suburbia...we do an occasional "go all out" event at a kid-oriented fun center, or a themed dress-up party now and then. Most years are rather low key, consisting only of those family traditions we have established over the years.

However, a lot of the rites of passage stuff I have embraced is predicated on birthday thresholds and the celebration of arriving at a new "stage". In that sense, certain birthdays are seen as a big deal in our household.

With that in mind I present a couple of short opinion articles on celebrating birthdays as Christians. I am still digesting these but would be interested in other's opinions.

Should a Christian Celebrate Birthdays? Article 1

Should Christians Celebrate Birthdays? Article 2

Thursday, February 28, 2008

Bible.org: Virtues Leading to Christlikeness

I've been fascinated with the concept of virtue for awhile and have done a bit of research around it as I have worked on a "Virtues Game" for my kids. I'll try to share some of the resources I've discovered in the future, but for now here is an article that helps frame the discussion of virtues in Christian terms (since it is not intrinsically a Christian distinctive).

Many of the Greeks including Aristotle and the Stoics argued that moral virtue was developed according to human achievement and that the goal in mind was personal happiness. Others argued that moral virtue was inherent, the natural disposition of the soul. But both of these ideas, while sharing some similarities with Christianity, are in fact at odds with Christianity’s essential ethical orientation. The “virtues” which the NT espouses have God’s character as their source, the Spirit as their efficient cause in the believer, Christ as their model, and love as their goal.

This article is pretty theological in nature with lots of Bible references so it might be worth printing out and reading during your normal study time rather than a quick web read.

Tuesday, February 26, 2008

Be a Fan of Your Kid

Although this site seems to be a little stale and specifically directed at the Denver Colorado region, I really like the sentiment. Being a fan of your kid seems like such a natural, simple exhortation...but all too often we dads can slip into a critical, "tough love" mentality.

Don't get me wrong. Part of what makes a dad so important in a child's life is the "edge" we bring...the tendency to challenge our kids, push them beyond their limits, and prepare them for life in the real world. All that Wild at Heart stuff!

However, we must always be careful to not sacrifice our relationship and positive influence for performance.

Be sure to check out the "A Full Day of Fun" idea on the website. Can you come up with 16 straight hours of activities to do with your kids??

Thursday, February 21, 2008

Not so weak that I would not be strong...

The true man trusts in a strength which is not his, and which he does not feel, does not even always desire; believes in a power that seems far from him, which is yet at the root of his fatigue itself and his need of rest --- rest as far from death as is labour. To trust in the strength of God in our weakness; to say, 'I am weak: so let me be : God is strong;' to seek from him who is our life, as the natural, simple cure of all that is amiss with us, power to do, and be, and live, even when we are weary, --- this is the victory that overcometh the world.

To believe in God our strength in the face of all seeming denial, to believe in him out of the heart of weakness and unbelief, in spite of numbness and weariness and lethargy; to believe in the wide-awake real, through all the stupefying, enervating, distorting dream; to will to wake, when the very being seems athirst for a godless repose; --- these are the broken steps up to the high fields where repose is but a form of strength, strength but a form of joy, joy but a form of love. 'I am weak,' says the true soul, 'but not so weak that I would not be strong; not so sleepy that I would not see the sun rise; not so lame but that I would walk! Thanks be to him who perfects strength in weakness, and gives to his beloved while they sleep!'

--George McDonald

Tuesday, February 19, 2008

The (non)Romantic

Yeah, so I blew it this year.


Valentine's Day came and went and sure, I mananged to get a card...but I really didn't put in the effort to perform a romantic gesture for my wife. I've managed to do some cool things for her in the past, but I just couldn't muster the energy this year.

Maybe it was the over-hype that V-day gets nowadays that turned me off, or maybe I'm just getting old and jaded. Either way, I feel like I kind of let her down.

Here's a site I'm checking out to revive my romantic side and get some good ideas. I believe the author to be a Christian as he has written fatherhood articles that have been published in Christian web magazines, but I have not confirmed.




Thursday, February 14, 2008

Family Friendly Movie Reviews

If your home is anything like mine, there is a constant battle waged over media entertainment. The kids want to watch the latest cool/hyped movie or DVD oblivious to the negative elements that it may contain. As fathers, it is our responsibility to judge whether or not it is appropriate for them to watch.

Here are some resources that we can use to get detailed reviews of movies and other media, including specifics of what kind of objectionable material is present. These are invaluable for making informed decisions.


The only advice I would give is to talk over the reasons (especially with teenagers) why you have decided that a particular movie is unacceptable, rather than just saying "because I said so". This will help them to understand your reasoning and develop their own sense of media choice.

www.familystyle.com

www.pluggedinonline.com

www.screenit.com (subscription based)


Wednesday, February 13, 2008

The Dad Diaries

Here's a site based on a cool idea: give dads a place to share "warm and wonderful slices of life" that we experience with our kids to inspire each other.

I can't tell if the site is operational or not, but there are a few stories and "dadages" there to check out.

Even if you aren't into sharing your stories with others, recording some funny/touching stories from your own kids as part of your legacy is a great idea.

Monday, February 11, 2008

Breakaway

Since 1990, Breakaway magazine has been encouraging teen guys to break away from the pressures of the world around them and to get real in a relationship with Jesus. As our theme verse says, "Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God?s will is - his good, pleasing and perfect will" (Romans 12:2).

Breakaway is a magazine of Focus on the Family, and it's all about teen guys. If you're into it, we'll write about it. Enjoy our stories about sports, adventure, music, girls, faith, technology, and much more. And connect with fellow teens who care about making a difference for Christ in their world.

BREAKAWAY: LIFE. GOD. TRUTH::FOR GUYS


Thursday, February 7, 2008

RMDK Class

I'm facilitating the six week Raising a Modern Day Knight class again at my church starting February 20th. I more or less just helped out last time, but will be leading this time.

It is a great class and I highly recommend it if you can find it in your area. It is a bit of a commitment for the six weeks and if you have never really been exposed to the concepts before, it can be a bit overwhelming. But, I have found it resonates profoundly with most men.

Wednesday, February 6, 2008

Hand Musings



The Biblical transliteration for "hand of a warrior" can be rendered "strength of the mighty man". There is a beautiful picture God is trying to get across to us men about the nature of our "strength" by using the metaphor of a hand. Here are some things to think about when meditating on Psalm 127:4.

Most of us have experienced the marvel of an infant wrapping his tiny hand around our finger. As this child grows and becomes more coordinated, he will hold toys in his hands, pick up bits of food with his fingers, point to things that interest him, or leaf through the pages of a book. With each passing year, he will be capable of performing more complex tasks with his hands. These same hands may someday be those of a doctor or nurse, a musician, an artist, a writer, a construction worker, a carpenter, an athlete, or a minister of the gospel.
Emotions can be expressed by the hands. Love and comfort can be shown by a touch of the hand. Likewise anger and hate can be conveyed by a hurtful blow or gesture. So, hands have the potential for causing incalculable goodness as well as evil.

God has a lot to say about hands throughout the Bible, making reference to them over 1,900 times, so there must be something important about our hands. A measure of the importance of any body part, in addition to what God says about it, might be the size of the brain area reserved for its use. Our hands occupy two of the largest spaces in the area of the brain known as the motor cortex.

Our hands can even substitute for eyes, ears, and voice. If we are blind, we can train our hands to read Braille. If deaf, we can train our hands to communicate through sign language. Our tactile discrimination is so keen that we can reach into our pocket and sort change.

Structurally, our hands are the most intricate components of the body. In no other part of our body is so much machinery packed into so small a space. There are eight wrist bones, five bones in the palm, and fourteen in the fingers – a total of 27. Add both hands together and they account for more than a fourth of all the bones in our body.

God has also built a tremendous supply of nerves into our hands to detect heat, touch and pain. We have thousands of nerve endings per square inch, most heavily concentrated in our fingertips. Sensitivity here is extraordinary, even to the extent of a moistened finger determining the direction of the wind. The fingerprints are formed by the time we reach our fourth month in the womb, and it’s no news that they are totally individual. God created your hands to be unique.

The palm of your hand contains one of the body’s richest supplies of sweat glands. The hand was created to work long and hard, to be kept moist by sweat glands so things would not slip out of its grip, and to maintain long periods of activity.

In complexity, the hands dwarf any man-made machine. They are versatile, tireless, swift, and, from birth to death, never need to be idle – except for rest during sleep. It’s calculated that during an average lifetime, finger joints will be extended and flexed at least twenty-five million times. Our hands are by far the most active members of our body, yet how often do you hear people complain about tired hands?

-- from "Thank God It's Monday" by Bill Woodrow

Tuesday, February 5, 2008

The Dangerous Book for Boys


Saw this in the store the other day...don't know much about it but a quick thumb through made it look very interesting.

Has that old "boy scout how-to" look. My fear with these books is that I buy them with best of intentions and then they wind up sitting on the shelf mocking me.

Maybe I'll check this out at the library and give a short review in the future.

The Dangerous Book for Boys

Friday, February 1, 2008

One Year

Today marks the one year anniversary of Warrior's Hand Blog. I have made a total of 152 posts.

More than anything this has been an exercise in faithfulness for me.

I hope to continue to gather resources here for as long as the Lord leads...

Thanks for checking in!

Here was the first ever entry, exactly one year ago:

http://warriorshand.blogspot.com/2007/02/migrating-blog.html